’til death do us part

On your deathbed, do you imagine that you will lament not having spent enough time at the office?  Absurdity!  Of course you won’t.  If anything, you’ll lament how much damn time you spent there.  How many minutes it took away from your relationship with your children or your lovers or your friends or your passions.  How many minutes do we all spend staring into somebody else’s projects?  Putting our priorities on a burner so far back that they go cold.

An Australian nurse who recorded the final thoughts of her dying patients over twelve years says just this in her compiled Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

But I doubt any of us need a study to know this.  We know this now.  We know this every time we look at the clock on the office wall and sigh.  We know this every time that the alarm goes off before we’ve finished resting.  We know this every time we miss someone or something because we were at the office.  Even if that something is just one sunny day.

We could all take a page from the book of the dying.  “Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice,” that nurse found. “They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”


0 Comments on “’til death do us part

  1. I see your point, but I think I *would* regret not having spent more time at the office if I had given up my job (which I love) to stay home with my child (which some people urged me to do, and which I think would’ve made me kind of crazy). One of the things I love about the job is that I rarely have to work overtime and never have to bring work home, so I feel it’s easy to have an appropriate separation of work and family life.

    I nominated you for a Liebster Award!

  2. Becca: Well I don’t think the point is to quit your job just because it is a job, but to make sure that if we are working, it makes us happy, and not to accept situations that aren’t making us happy because we are too comfortable or sort of afraid of change.

    I can totally relate to wanting to get back to work once there is a baby. I’m living that myself. But I have also working in office jobs that made me miserable, and heard people talking about similar reasons for not taking action.

    And oh! Thanks for the Liebster. Neat!

  3. Perfect timing for this post. I just gave notice to a job I like fine at a firm I dislike with a management I have no respect for.
    I have no responsibilities, no debt, plenty of savings savings and enough qualifications to do it. So I’m doing it.
    Now I will spend time doing the things hat make me happy. 🙂

  4. although i don’t hate my job, i really get this post. i KNOW i will regret so much of the time I spend at my office. but such is life for now:)

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